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04/03/2010


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the importance of being a Mum, a Dad, and a friend, love and happiness ...

The sun is pouring through the window and it's March 4th, the date my Mum and Dad got married, back in 1961.

How time flies. Today they would have been celebrating 49 years of marriage. That's if they hadn't got divorced, and Mum hadn't left us for which I hope is a place where the sun shines bright.

When a marriage breaks down it ends, when someone dies, time somewhat heals, but grief and sorrow can show no sign of an end.



One mustn't rely on support, but it is gratefully accepted when it's received.

That's were blog friends come in.

Look at that cute bunny above!

Lisa from Periwinkle recently lost a very close friend.

She came up with the brilliant idea of making cute egg-cup cosy bunnies, with the consent of the pattern owner, with all proceeds going to his charity fund.

Aah look! After e-mailing Lisa with a special request for one with yellow stripes, she made a custom, custard cosy especially for me!

This bunny is sitting next to two items of my 'modern' yellow Cornishware. Ones which I cherish, ones which Mum gave to me after visits to what once was, the factory shop at Church Gresley in Derbyshire.

If you have yet to discover Lisa's skill with knitting needles take a look on her blog, or better still take a look in her shop on Etsy.

To have this bunny in my home makes me very happy!



As, I am sure regular and long-term readers of my blog know, my Mum died, on a sunny day very much like today, of secondary Breast cancer.

She was happy when in remission, but became very depressed and dispondent when she lost the use of her dominant arm, when cancer cruelly spread to her bones. Never being one for giving up, she gave up.

The subject of cancer is one very close to my heart.

That's where blog friends come in.



Back in October, a good blog friend of mine over at Life in Red Shoes, who leaves 'witty' comments over on my garden blog, was holding a Pink giveaway to highlight the fact it was Breast Cancer Awareness month.

She asked for comments from those touched by breast cancer. After reading her very emotional and touching account of losing a best friend, I left a comment. This is the link if you would like to read it, but do have a handful of tissues at the ready.

Look, yours truly only went and won!

Not only did I receive the giveway of a set of emaculately hand-made dishclothes and a set of potholders (another cleverclogs knitter), enclosed was a lovely card, and little bags of seeds collected from flowers from her garden, for my garden.



Love is a difficult word to define.

The word love, of which I confess to using in blog world in a rather indiscriminate manner, can mean many things.

This is the card I sent J as his Valentine. Now, I love him to bits!

I thought you might think it sweet, and as a gesture of blog friendship, and love in a different shape and form, I send it to you.

We haven't kept every card we've sent each other over the years (too much stuff lying around the place does my head in), and what is a lovely cuddly bear, who is is happily surrounded in pink love hearts, will inevitably end up head first in the blue bin!

But not blog friendships, I do hope!




13 comments:

meri said...

Dear Louise my parents got married on a March 4th much earlier back in 1933! They hadn't got divorced but both had left us for long...
This is Life, and memories are Life too :)

Jane said...

When very very extra special card comes along I buy a frame and put it on the wall then it makes me smile every day. I too have lost friends to cancer but life moves on and the pain does ease. Jane x

Simone said...

That's a great photo of your Mum and Dad Louise. The little rabbit from Lisa is so sweet and matches perfectly with your cornishware! It is so sad that your Mum was taken from you with such a cruel disease. I bet she would be so proud of you. x

acornmoon said...

Thinking of you. We too have lost someone very dear. x

...... Kristina ...... said...

Dear Louise,
The picture of your parents is so beautiful and is lovely for you to gaze upon.
I love your bunny and how cool of your dear mum to not go with the ever so popular blue i have never seen it in the yellow and i like it.
My mum had ovarian cancer and was treated with chemo 10 years ago and we have just this last week had a scare that it was back but the doctor called tonight at just after 6 to tell us she is all clear for now,so this post of yours had me in tears, i am so sorry you lost your mum Louise i really am it is so unfair.
The word verification for this comment is mytede hehe my teddy? from you to me x
Love Kristina XXX

twiggypeasticks said...

Hi Louise
If my darling Dad was stll around it would have been Mum and Dads 54th wedding anniversary on St Patricks Day !!! We went to the crematorium with some red roses for him today.
I love the photo of your Mum and Dad, you are a very lovely lady and I class you as one of my top blogging buddies.
twiggy x

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

Hi Louise

My parents married a month before yours in 1948. My dad died when I was 18 but my Mom is still alive and I help her quite a bit now as she is approaching 90 years of age.

Cancer is a terrible thing. I'm a survivor myself.

Congrats on your lovely winnings and that adorable knitted bunny! I will definitely looks at her ETSY shop!
♥ Pat

Rhondi said...

Hi Louise
What a nice surprise to hear from you! This post is a beautiful tribute to your mom. It is hard losing our mother. I think that is when we finally have to grow up.
Hugs, Rhondi

LizzieJane said...

What a simply lovely post. I lost my mum to cancer a few years ago and there is not a day that goes by that I don't miss her dreadfully. It's nice having bloggy friends that really understand, isn't it.
Hugs,
x

periwinkle said...

we had a scare with my mam too , she had cancer in her small bowel but thankfully is now in remission ... That bunny is a really good match colourwise isn't it , so glad you like it. Hugs

Amanda and Tim said...

Louise this is a beautifully emotional post, starting with a beautiful picture of your parents. I am so sorry you lost your mum to cancer, but glad that you have made so many friends who are there to help ease the pain any way they can, be it through sharing their own experiences or making such sweet little gifts as that rabbit!

skippinginthemeadow said...

love the bunny :3

your mum was very beautiful

hugs xxx

sumea

lifeinredshoes said...

Louise! I apologize for taking so much time to get back to you!
I am so glad that you won, I so enjoyed sending a package to you.
Keep your sweet Mum in your heart, she will always stay safe and sound there :)